Am hoping for some sensible advice. My exh has previously been abusive to my ds's, this was a major factor in us splitting. Since he left they have had minimal contact with him and he has continued to be an abusive twat. Recently they have both distanced themselves from him and he has noticed. This has led to him buying them stuff and throwing money at them. I am really upset that it has worked. They both now seem to idolise him and I feel they are resenting me because I do not have as much money as him.
Tonight my eldest ds has told me that he will be cancelling plans we made because he is going out with his dad next weekend. I am so upset and tried to explain that is is not nice to accept an invitation then cancel when you get a better offer.
We had a huge row and he accused me of trying to stop him seeing his dad. Although I told him it was nothing to do with him going out with his dad and that he should not drop someone for anyone else I guess he is right and I do feel incredibly hurt.
Anyway, I guess what I am asking is: should I just be pleased that they are getting on with their dad and am I awful for feeling so hurt?
I must add that I have never badmouthed their dad and always been supportive when they have had problems with him, without expressing my personal opinion of the man (he is an abusive twat!)
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Funnylady123 · 23/10/2016 19:19
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