Hi there, having gained so much helpful advice and views from you MNetters, I thought I might ask what your take on this is and/or if you've experienced anything similar.
In a nutshell, 2 years ago Xh stopped me from getting on the plane back to UK, he left with our DS and I took a separate flight back the next day, returned to UK but moved out of our shared home. Since then, XH has limited my contact with DS, I went along with this at first because my DF and DM said I couldn't afford legal representation and that I should sort things out amicably. XH agreed to 50-50 parenting but unbeknownst to me changed his mind at some point, without telling me. All the time I thought we were working towards shared care.
1 year ago I got together with DP and a few weeks later XH busted into my flat in anger and I reported him to the police. After that, he stopped me seeing DS unsupervised for a tormenting 3-4 months. Court proceedings have been ongoing ever since - currently he's agreed by consent that I had DS overnight one night a week without supervision. The court has made no orders yet, XH claims my mental instability as his reason.
This September we filed statements to court. He had four school mums giving lengthy statements about how I'm unable to parent, writing character assassinations of me. Plus one former friend who's not a school mum. And all his family members of course - but what I continue to be puzzled by is what made these women side so strongly with XH against me, effectively saying to court I should not be able to be a proper mum to DS?
Their reasons were mainly based on what they'd heard from XH, so I don't quite understand how they did not come to question the source of information? Why do people do this?
I'm just taken aback because I would never in a million years get involved with other people's child arrangement proceedings without at the very least hearing both sides. I used to regularly babysit some of these mums' kids so it's kind of outrageous that they now try to stop me having any proper contact with my DS. They made their minds up after whatever XH told them and did not ask me anything and the next thing I know they've written these horrible statements about me.
Would love to hear your views.
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Why did school mums take sides with XH against me
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user1475501383 · 23/10/2016 17:24
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