I honestly don't know as I was very young at the time . I know it was wrong but I don't know exactly what it was. I will tell you the story, as I remember it.
When I was 9/10 years old I went on a day out swimming with my then best friend, her dad and her little brother. It was to one of those fun pools, flumes, wave machines etc. It had several pools all linked together.
At one point towards the end of the day I found myself detached from my friend and her brother who were in another pool and I was alone with their dad. I was floating on a big ring and their dad pulled me towards him and kissed me on the lips. It was a closed mouth kiss but it was very hard and not at all what I was used to from my own parents. I felt instantly really bad and confused, I thought maybe he has mistaken me for my friend as I knew that it wasn't right for someone else's dad to kiss me. But I didn't know why.
I remember losing all enthusiasm for the day out after that and I just wanted to go home. I got away from him by saying I wanted to find my friend and just avoided him for the rest of the day.
I never ever told anyone, I felt that what had happened was bad and therefore I would be in trouble if I said anything.
Now looking back as an adult (and it still bothers me, more so now) I can see it was wrong, a grown man shouldn't be kissing his young daughters friends on the lips. I think this was the first time I had met him so it's not like he would have felt any paternal affection for me.
I am still confused and don't know if I was assaulted. Was I? He didn't touch any of my private parts. He acted very casually as if it was no big deal. Maybe I am over reacting?
I don't think I am though. Or am I?
I would love your opinions. I am really sorry if this isn't the right place to post this, I wasn't sure but as I trust all that I see you ladies post as advice I felt most comfortable here.
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Mrsemcgregor · 20/10/2016 07:41
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