Name changed as a previous post could identify me.
OH and I have been together 7 years, early 30s, not married, no children, own a house together.
He had never given me any reason to be concerned about our relationship. We bought a house recently, planned to get married in the next couple of years etc.
A couple of months ago we were on holiday and I briefly saw an instagram photo of a girl on his phone. I did some snooping found he had an account and had been liking lots of different girls photos, nothing dodgy just pictures of their faces. I was a bit upset about this. He had even been liking pictures of them on holiday on my birthday and it upset me that all of the girls had a really alternative style, piercings and tattoo's etc which is nothing like me - this part bothered more than it should have.
When I asked him about the account he genuinley seemed hurt that he'd done something to upset me, offered to let me look through his phone, agreed that if it was the way around he wouldn't like it and deleted the account (I didn't ask him to delete it). He also mentioned that they were all people he'd met at gigs and festivals and for some reason at the time I accepted this explanation. It made me feel better that they weren't just random girls, but now I can't stop thinking about him going to gigs and getting enought details from other women to be able to follow them online. I also saw one of the girls phone numbers on his phone via the screen in the car. He didn't try to hide it from me, presumably because he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong.
I swing from thinking I am paranoid and controlling to thinking he is behaving wholy innapropriately. He goes to these gigs with a male friend who is married. It's a pretty niche type of music which I don't really like. The fact that you wouldnt come across people liking the music in everyday life could be an excuse to meet people at the gigs. Would you be OK with this? I can't decide whether to drag the subject up again.
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witchhunter · 19/10/2016 13:58
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