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I think I may have made a big mistake with ex

(7 Posts)
CupcakesandSprinkles Sun 16-Oct-16 02:41:07

Name changed just in case smile also long post as dont want to drip feed

I have been involved with another man since I was 16 and he was 18 (I'm now 24) We had a 'proper' relationship for about 6 months but then he moved away. Ever since then we've had a sort of online relationship. We have gone months without speaking but occasionally we talk and chat on the phone or online. For some reason something has stuck and we have often got in touch over the years

Now here comes the issue cringey part for years we've 'sexted' and exchanged pictures which I know he has kept in the past

I've found out recently that he's had a girlfriend for ages and he's been emotionally cheating on her with me ( I had no idea) - I've only ever been in contact with him when ive been single. That combined with a variety of other factors means I want him gone as he should be ancient history

However he is very clingy and can get annoyed when I don't text him to the point where I worry that stupid messages and photos I sent to him are going to come back to haunt me. He's turned in to a bit of a creep and I wish I could erase anything he has stored of me but I can't?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated

CupcakesandSprinkles Sun 16-Oct-16 02:48:03

Sorry, just read it back - If I wasn't clear I

A) Don't want him to use these pictures and messages against me/ be doing god knows what with them

B) have a massive backlash from his girlfriend whom I knew nothing about

I just wish I'd never done any of this but I was 16 when it all started and stupidly naive

BolshierAryaStark Sun 16-Oct-16 09:29:54

There's not a lot you can do about the pictures, he has them-if he does use them against you in some way then you inform the police though & they'll most likely prosecute him.
You need to delete his number & block him, he's a cretin. Move on from him.

loinnir Sun 16-Oct-16 10:38:15

Agree with Bolshier you need to go completely no contact with this creep. Block his number, block and do not read his emails, defriend him on FB etc. Before he became creepy I guess he was a nice crutch to have when you were single for a bit of naughty long distance fun and reassurance that you were super hot. Does he have your home address?

CupcakesandSprinkles Sun 16-Oct-16 12:16:13

As of this morning I've blocked all contact. Luckily he doesn't have my home address as I moved a few months back

BolshierAryaStark Sun 16-Oct-16 12:19:43

Good for you. Onwards & upwards-don't give this twat another thought-put him down to experience & find someone deserving of you.

loinnir Sun 16-Oct-16 12:32:44

Well done - onwards and upwards!

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