Ex's racism/homophobia is driving me mad

[Myusernameismyusername]

He's my ex for many reasons and this is one but he is getting worse as he gets older.

I have teen DC's who I Am bringing up to respect all people no matter what. I have to say, they are amazing and I really have to give them credit that I don't think his opinions change their views but it's really driving me mad. I have a number of gay friends myself. Ex dp also accused me of being gay when I didn't like having sex with him. He's also made some slight comments to Dc's about my sexual preferences in the past relating to female friendships as I have been single for a long time. I do suspect he thinks I am a closet gay woman . My DC's are savvy enough to know some of their friends could be gay and haven't come out yet and appreciate this is what can be so painful and difficult.

His homophobia has taken on a new level recently and not just to them but to me in annoying comments in conversation he will even text my daughter comments about people on TV. Recently he decided to go on a real gross rant about how wrong it was and my Dc's were quite horrified by his uneducated ignorant idiotic views and now are beginning to ridicule him. Also I do worry about this having an effect on their own self esteem if god forbid (for his reaction), one of them happened to come out later in life.

He doesn't listen to a bloody word I say so not sure what I can actually do but what do you do about people like this? It boils my blood

[QuiteLikely5]

Report to the police. It's illegal see how he likes that.

I doubt he will stop if you have a word with him

[MyBreadIsEggy]

Glad to hear your Ex is an Ex! What an absolute bellend!
I have no real advice, but you've obviously done a great job with raising open-minded, tolerant, decent human beings who can't be swayed by your Ex's vitriol

[dalmatianmad]

Sounds awful but I think the Police have got better things to deal with!

[ThatStewie]

i wouldn't engage with your ex. I'd focus on your kids instead being very clear that their fathers comments are homophobic and racist. that he is completely wrong and I'd be making them aware of the hate crime statutes. There's literally nothing you can do about him. Just focus on having honest conversations with them instead.

[Myusernameismyusername]

It's not about one person though, it's generalised so is that illegal? It's almost like he is a religious nut about it without the religion.
Racism is also horrible use of language against minority groups and 'send them all home!' Britain First type stuff

[LellyMcKelly]

I'd put money on him being in the closet. He's projecting, and getting overly bothered about something that shouldn't be impacting on him in any way. Your ex is protesting way too much.