Just that really...
in my case, not physical abuse - but emotional abuse in all forms and someone who treated me very badly - like a disposable sex toy.
I put on a good front of being very "male" - ie. it's just sex for me too and acting cool - but inside pieces of my soul were shrivveling up, dying and falling off as I was completely in love with him.
The whole thing erroded my self confidence - and still does to this day - as I keep thinking "why didn't he value me at all? I must be really unattractive/unworthy/useless otherwise he would have cared".
I'm not seeing him any more but still come across him through work. The end of the relationship featured some quite nasty verbal abuse that hurt and upset me greatly. At the time, I was so turned off by it, it was easy to walk away.
But it's like over time the pain has dulled or something and I'm back to feeling this overwhelming love obsession for him again.
What does this say about me? I'm seriously fucked up right?
I've had some psychotherapy which hasn't really helped btw.
I'm just wondering what it is about this man that means I can still have re-awakening feelings of love after all this crap. I don't come from an abusive home background if that matters.
Will I ever get over him?
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What does it say about you if you still love someone who was abusive?
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RosebudWasHisSledge · 09/10/2016 00:17
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