Hello all
I posted this on what would you do and then found the relationship topic. Needless to say it's my first time posting so please bear with me.
Hello all
This is my first time posting. My DH and I have never communicated well. We are BOTH bad at it but he blames me and I blame him.
I struggle to see what we have in common. He likes to be with his mates. I like being at home. He likes a laugh. I do too but we don't laugh at the same thing.
Today I completed a 4 hour round trip for a 5 hour meeting. I was tired and spent the evening doing the online shop, having cooked the meal (i cook 99% of the time). I also spent time trying to book a weekend away with a girlfriend for some ME time. At the end of the evening, we hadn't spoken and so I took myself off to bed without saying goodnight. Not angry just tired and not bothered.
So this starts a text conversation from him along the lines of - you don't respect me, you are not normal, you show no interest in me, it's not just me who thinks you are hard work, if I think about it too much, you make me unhappy. This is after me the night before telling him that I was driving to this place for my meeting today - his response was to say nothing. Nothing at all.
This just feels like a dead relationship, I don't know that we have ever got on. His family (siblings, parents) are very involved in his life. And it doesn't feel like WE are the unit.
I know I was at fault to go to bed without saying anything but does that make me 'not normal'? And when do you know when to give up? How do you make the decision to end the relationship? How do you know it's the end?
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qgirl · 05/10/2016 07:50
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