Dh just told me that before we were married he cheated with his ex. It was nearly 5 years ago, we had been together about a year, he received oral sex from her on a night out, I don't have anymore details yet but he swears that was it. Last week he confessed he had kissed her after we had been together 3 months but it meant nothing, I'm not sure if this was a separate incident or the actual truth and he was changing the details of the kiss incident to make it seem less bad. We were not married but had lived together for some months and discussed marriage/children in the future.
We have been married 2 ½ years, we have a nearly 2 year old dd. If you asked me this morning if we had a good and happy marriage I would have said yes. I have always thought I could never imagine him cheating. I always thought he was an honest person but just last week he was lying to my face, he swore it was just a drunken kiss before we were serious, now I find out he lied. What do I do now? I don't feel this is marriage ending but I am so angry he lied to me and kept such a big secret for so long.
He was not married to ex but they were together on/off for 8 years. They have mutual friends so I have met her a few times at weddings/birthdays etc, she has acted all pally pally to me and probably been laughing behind my back.
I didn't know what to say to dh so I just walked out, now I'm sat in costa trying not to cry.
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Forgiveorforget · 03/10/2016 16:55
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