Please help me with some perspective here...
DH and I have been together 16 years, married 13 years.
We have the usual difficulties of balancing two careers, two kids, mortgage, flagging sex life (especially on my part, which I know upsets DH - I just don't have much of a libido anymore)
DC3 due in two months.
We haven't spoken for three weeks. I've tried to iron things out. He ignores my attempts, so I've given up. We are functioning for sake of children. He had become so shouty every day. With me, with the kids. Three times during our marriage I've felt I needed to leave the house because I've been scared by him, usually after a big row when he has been drinking. He has pushed me, following me room to room shouting, nasty.
Yet he cooks all the time, asks me what I want for dinner always. Usually lovely with the children, except for shouting habit over the past year or so.
I dragged him to one session of Relate counselling but he hated it. Basically refused to persist with it. I genuinely think he believes our problems are all my fault. He feels so much resentment towards me. Even when he loses it during those big rows, the apologies feel very half-hearted. Plus it happens again.
We used to be such great friends. Lots of common passions. Now I don't know what he is thinking anymore.
Plus I'm scared to death about coping with labour and a newborn when we are on such shaky ground. I've never thought our marriage could fail until now.
Any ideas or similar stories appreciated.
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Yoyobear · 27/09/2016 22:24
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