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Am I being unreasonable?

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karmacoma1 · 25/09/2016 10:42

Hello. First time poster, long time lurker.

I have no one to talk to about this, as I don't want anyone in 'r/l' knowing my business.

I am 15 weeks pg with mine and my husbands first child. The first trimester hasn't been easy, I've suffered from really bad ms, and the usual tiredness.

Anyway, last night my husband, our 'friend' and I went out about 7 to a theme night at a local pub. I drove, the plan was to have a couple of drinks then go home. We had said amount of drinks, and it was obvious that they were both really enjoying themselves - I was shattered though so I said to the friend whilst my husband went to the loo, why don't you stay out for a couple more, share a taxi to drop you both home? Friend is ok with this, husband is ok with this and says let me walk you to the car.

I get to the car and husband starts making noise about how little money he has ( I get paid before him monthly) I offer to lend him £30, try to transfer to his bank but he has his banks messed up from charges, so I give him my bank card.

I drive home, alone in the dark through the city to the shitty, dodgy area we live in, go inside and out on the tv. A couple of hours go by and I've heard nothing off him. No text to see if I got home ok, nothing.

I check whatsapp, he was active 3 mins ago - so his phone has not died, I check my bank and he's taken out over £100.

I send him a text angry about the lack of contact and the money and I just get a text back saying YOU said I could stay out.

I cry myself to sleep, and he returns this morning after being out all night, and when I confront him, he starts shouting that I was being mental, and his friend said that I flipped out and stormed off because someone at the pub offered to buy him a drink?!

I'm so hurt at being made to be feel like I'm a pyscho, by both of them! I've tried so hard not to be a controlling pregnant wife and I just get treated like a taxi/cash machine,

So now we're just sitting in different areas of the house.

Sorry for the rant, I just feel so alone.

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gamerchick · 25/09/2016 10:48

No you're not and it's fucking irritating when you trust your bloke with your card and they go all out. I know you're not supposed to give out your card and yes it's your own fault etc but seriously the one person you're supposed to be a team with lets you down like that.

He knows he's in the wrong and will make it your fault somehow so he doesn't have to acknowledge how much of a cock he's been.

He owes you the money and get your card back. If you want to look at your relationship as a hole then so be it but in the meantime don't give him your card again.