A very long story but after 9 moths of verbal & emotional abuse which included running over my belongings in the road which resulted in the police being called , my husband and I separated about 5 months ago- he left the family home.
He has never accepted the situation & even the police said they felt he would be a very dark shadow in my life for years to come.I had a red flag on my address to alert the police if someone called giving my address. They put me in touch with the Domestic Abuse Centre & I have spoken to Women's Aid on a number of occasions. My friends are on constant guard as they are worried about his instability (I have a 2 hr conversation that I recorded a couple of weeks ago of him calling me the worst names possible - me asking him to leave, him refusing - at the time it was in the family home so he said he has every right to be there), I have a separate hidden PAYG phone that only 2 friends have the no of as he has taken my phone many times. He currently has 1 set of my car keys that he is refusing to give back.
I eventually moved out of the family home last weekend into my 'own' house - paid for & funded by myself.
We try to remain civil when talking for the children (older teenagers) but this usually only lasts for a couple of days before he throws a wobbly about something. It is a cycle of his I now recognise. He will then 'need' something and try to re-engage conversation as if nothing has happened or he will hear that I need the tv fixing or something & turn up as Mr Nice Guy.
I have a new partner with whom I am very happy.
I stayed at a friends last night & received a text from ex-h this morning saying he had left flowers on my doorstep at 6.30am , couldn't see my car & where the fucking hell was I !!! he then proceeded to drive to my known houses & drive round the side streets trying to find me.
I was so happy last week when I moved but now I feel like a prisoner again & I'm not sure what to do.
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user1471499145 · 24/09/2016 13:56
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