Don't know how to end a marriage when husband thinks nothing's wrong...

[WendyBurfitt]

My husband thinks I should just lower my expectations and count my blessings. Everything is on his terms. You may have seen a previous thread where he falsely accused me of child abuse. Now that's all over he's acting like it never happened. He won't do counselling (too expensive yet he's just spent £250000 on a new Audi! There no sex, no affection, no conversation unless it's something he can cope with talking about. I'm so sad and bored and lonely. I have no money to rent elsewhere.

[jayho]

That's a very expensive Audi

You can tell him it's over and start divorce proceedings. You are entitled to leave. Do you have joint finances?

[Threepineapples]

Why don't you just file for divorce? You don't need his permission.

If you feel a bit daunted do you have a friend or family member who could go with you to see a solicitor?

[Mybeardeddragonjustdied2016]

Leave him.
File for divorce
Claim child support
Be happy

[fusspot66]

If you're married, half that Audi is yours!

[SaggyNaggy]

What he thinks matters not a single jot, you're unhappy, your life is wasting away, you don't have to be with someone who makes ypu iunhappy.

[WendyBurfitt]

Yes I noticed the extra 0!! I guess I'm worried it's not justified - when he's as happy as Larry I wonder if he's right that I'm expecting too much.

[Mybeardeddragonjustdied2016]

Of course he is happy. He had got a lovely new car. And a doormat.

[jayho]

YOU matter! What YOU expect matters.

[RandomMess]

Ermmmmm, you are unhappy, there are differences that cannot be reconciled, it would seem there is also financial abuse.

3 valid reasons to leave regardless of what he wants/feels.

[WendyBurfitt]

When discussing with a friend the other day she suggested that maybe I was emotionally abusing him for wanting him to be something he's not (ie interested in me!)

[Joysmum]

What's clear is that there's nothing wrong to him, things suit him as they are.

This isn't working for you and if he doesn't see an issue then things will never improve. That's reason enough to call time.

[hermione2016]

Didn't see the previous post about child abuse but really if he did this then there is no trust or respect for you.

That is reason enough.
When you raise the issue does he just deny it? If so then he's gaslighting you.Another good reason.

Do you have children? You can see a solicitor for usually 30mins free.Dvorce can be paid for out of joint funds, don't let this stop you.