Hi.. I am a single mom, ive a 10 year old and I work part time...I have been dating for a while, but had never met anyone interesting....Then I met him through online dating in june, we got on well communication was amazing, he seemed genuine. Our first date was cancelled by him an hour before meeting saying that he had work emergency. i let it flow as he sounded sincerely sorry. 2nd date was cancelled again an hour before meeting saying his brother was in hosp, i believed it as he sent me pictures. we carried on talking and i went away on holiday in july while i was away i could feel friction coming up the communication was less and emotions were cold, he said it was due to work and the fact that his brother was ill. when i got back we were meant to meet up after 2 days he stood me up no messages no calls, the next morning he said he was arrested due to domestic violence which was not his fault and didn't have his phone on him. i still believed him. we met after 2 days date went well (now this was first date) anyway after that the communication was dropping even more, he would text in the morning and then nothing all day and even if i did initiate conversation i would get replies back. we decided to meet up and as usual he cancelled saying he couldn't make it as he was busy at work. by now i was beginning to think he was either married or had a gf, i asked him he denied. he said he loved me but none of his actions were backed up by his words. he said it was the work project that was taking up all his time and energy and he needed me to be understanding, I was, i supported him, i made him laugh, i tried cheering him up, went with the flow, didn't get upset, I cooled off with the texting gave him his space but it was getting to a point where i felt like i was talking to myself. i couldn't talk to him, he wouldn't answer my calls, wouldn't return them, i felt scared to text him as I felt unwanted and neglected, , or to tell him anything that i felt whether it was happy or sad. this sat we were sup to meet up and as usual he didn't turn up. when i texted he said he had to cancel as he was still at work. i had enough of this nonsense. i told him i couldn't continue crying in silence and i do not want to be treated like an option, i needed to be someones priority someone who values me and loves me and is there for me as much as i am there for him. So after I broke up, I texted him to ask him if he treats all women like that or i got special treatment and he said since ive broken up with him we should leave it there. I know i made the right decision, i was unhappy, I was suffocating, but why do i feel so sad and miserable and like ive made a mistake?! he treated me badly because i let him, but why do i still miss him and cant forget him?!
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DixieWishbone ·
16/09/2016 03:01
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