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Breaking up

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GemmaRalph Mon 05-Sep-16 12:23:27

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PastoralCare Mon 05-Sep-16 12:34:24

He tried to find an excuse that in his eyes was not too harsh, but it seems he's just not interested anymore.

TheNaze73 Mon 05-Sep-16 16:20:42

I agree, he's doing damage limitation here & wants out. Sorry to say op flowers

Backtoschoolyay Mon 05-Sep-16 16:39:45

Don't buy the house. He is treating you badly and knows it. I remember your other thread and I think you were generous to give him the benefit of the doubt straight away.

GemmaRalph Mon 05-Sep-16 18:23:34

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ImperialBlether Mon 05-Sep-16 18:25:11

It's always horrible when a relationship ends, but worse to live with someone who's snappy and only feels lukewarm towards you.

Are you able to afford somewhere on your own?

gildedcage Mon 05-Sep-16 18:40:33

Hi Gemma, I remember your last thread. I'm sorry to hear your update. I'm glad you have taken your own future in your hands. I wish you wellflowers.

I'd gird your loins though for him coming back in 6 months when he's realised the grass isn't greener.

GemmaRalph Mon 05-Sep-16 20:49:24

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fastdaytears Mon 05-Sep-16 20:52:13

So sorry to hear this. I remember your other thread because this happened to me (the night before we were about to move...)

Of course he panicked and tried a lot to get another try but I stood my ground. Honestly the hardest thing ever but I couldn't trust him after all that.

Mistykit Mon 05-Sep-16 21:03:06

My ex did similar, but he dragged it out over 2 months... couldn't make his mind up if he wanted me or not. It's such a struggle and I'm glad to hear that you walked away instead of letting it drag out. i cut contact with him today-you need to do that in order to move on. I know it's hard and it is lonely. Try to keep yourself busy with viewings and getting your own place sorted.

Do not go back if he asks - he will do the same again I expect and it will destroy you over time if he prolongs it and messes with your head.

GemmaRalph Mon 05-Sep-16 23:00:38

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Resilience16 Tue 06-Sep-16 04:18:09

You are doing the right thing.
It's a horrible situation and I know it feels very painful now but you will get through it.
You had a life before you met him and you will have a life after he has gone.
Keep busy,focus on knowing you are doing the right thing and get through it day by day.
Good luck x

GemmaRalph Tue 06-Sep-16 07:31:17

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fastdaytears Tue 06-Sep-16 07:43:01

3 years seems like a long time I know but it's not compared to spending the rest of your life with someone so selfish and unreliable.

You might have said this before but how old are you?

LellyMcKelly Tue 06-Sep-16 08:01:00

Well done on finding the strength, Gemma. He's put you through enough. You've done the right thing. flowers

Mistykit Tue 06-Sep-16 10:26:09

I went to the doc yesterday and they put me on anti-depressants & sleeping pills. I need to calm the chaos in my head and the loneliness was killing me (almost literally). You may want to consider a doc appointment if you continue to feel as you are now.

You need to get him out of the flat. Surely he can stay somewhere else? You can't properly grieve or even start to get over it while he is still there.

GemmaRalph Tue 06-Sep-16 11:45:43

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GemmaRalph Tue 06-Sep-16 11:46:43

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GemmaRalph Wed 07-Sep-16 20:06:23

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fastdaytears Wed 07-Sep-16 20:50:38

Bit longer yet love!

Delete the texts now!

Mistykit Wed 07-Sep-16 21:16:57

It'll be ok. It always is. My ex is dating now. It's tough, but you have to be tougher. It sounds like the loneliness comes in waves... if so, then you need to have a plan for when you feel it.. maybe go for a walk? Play with a pet? Call over to a friend? If walking, go somewhere not too coupley which may make you feel even more lonely.

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