Really sorry if this is silly but I'd appreciate opinions etc as I have doubts about my relationship with a lovely man. We have always got on really well and have been together nearly 4yrs but don't live together. I am the block on engagement/marriage and living together as I'm happy as we are - perhaps I'm just selfish?
I have 3 DC with exH and my bf has no children or has ever been married or really lived long term with anyone. We are both mid 40s.
We've recently returned from our first overseas holiday which is the longest time he has spent with either myself or the children. It went reasonably well, but there were a couple of issues mostly around not having any time 'together' and he sulked which I let him get on with. Everything settled down afer a couple of days and the holiday continued without further incident.
For a few months now I have been finding him 'difficult' to deal with - nothing that I can point at specifically so have thought that it might be a new job role he has taken on or perhaps it's me as I've also been having a stressful few months at work and general juggling of childcare & summer holidays/ costs of uniform and general pressure of being a single working mum.
He's blown a bit hot/cold since we got back and admits that he's a bit 'out of sorts' and has been for a while & that the holiday wasn't what he has envisaged. A bit of an email battle ensued and I pointed out that he mentioned his ex 3 times and her mum (who 'loves him') when he was irritated with me & the children. It prompted me to ask did he subconsciously realise that he needs someone without other priorities - I was accused of being spiteful and cheap.
I am beginning to think it's not me but perhaps it's run it natural course. He doesn't gaslight or anything like that and isn't abusive but there's something not quite right and I'd appreciate any views. I suppose I'd like advice on whether to take a bit of a break to evaluate how I feel or just call it a day? I feel a bit sad but not heartbroken - I suppose that says it all really..................TIA
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