I need some help and advice.
My DH of 10+ years and I separated last year. It was a nasty split. We had a few issues, but the biggest was with my father. I love my family very much, but just realized that my DH was right. My father is narcissistic!
A few months ago I told my dad that I loved DH and wanted to work things out and get back together, he got angry, threatened to disown me, called me some nasty names, sent me some nasty messages, etc. This is when I realized what my dad was. I reflected on my life and realized that I did everything dad told me to do, I couldn’t do anything without consulting dad or he would get angry. I’ve had enough of his behavior, demands, ultimatums, temper tantrums, etc. I have decided I want nothing to do with him anymore. I have decided to disown my parents and live MY life MY way. I choose my DH, I don’t want to be daddy’s little puppet anymore.
Things between DH and I have been going well for the last few months. We are still separated and I hope that we will get back together for good. My DH is still hesitant on officially getting back together as he fears I will allow dad back into the picture.
How do I deal with the guilt and fear of disowning my parents. How do I handle special occasions? How do I handle the situation with my children? Anyone out there go through this?
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Narcissistic father destroyed my marriage!
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TallBlondie · 26/08/2016 22:42
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