I've posted on here previously a few months ago about my H and our problems, since then we've had counselling which is really helping both of us however H recently returned to form with some things he's done which basically completely demean my role in our relationship. I have now told him, in the presence of our counsellor, that I am done. I do not wish to do this anymore. I think this is finally getting through to him but it is too little too late. I now need to get my ducks in a row as the next step seems like it is perilously close to stepping off into separation and divorce.
Are screenshots of documents enough to file away for the time being? I have details of our mortgage (the ref number and a shot of our most recent statement, plus earlier documents which were signed when we bought our house). I have a screenshot of H's most recent UK pension statement however we have been living abroad (in Europe) for 2 years and anything for this company is all online which I do not have access to.
What else do I need to do?
I know deep down I'm doing the right thing as he will never change but I am starting to get nervous with regard to squaring up to him in terms of a settlement and me coming back to the UK with the kids. I need to find a solicitor with knowledge of this (although we are both english). I think what worries me is that his dad has enough financial back up to hire a SHL for him and I would have to find someone who could take their fee from the settlement.
If anyone has some good advice or even just a hand to hold I'd be grateful. The thought of telling the kids once we have agreed on a plan fills me with dread. Please tell me it'll be ok
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told him I'm done, now need to get my ducks lined up - help!
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FlounderingWildly · 22/08/2016 16:51
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