I've posted about my OH when I first found out I was pregnant. Bit of backstory:
We had a really tough time, I found out he was still talking to his ex wife on a near daily basis, had just found out I was pregnant and it all came to a head and culminated in us breaking up. He said he wanted nothing to do with me or baby, and accused me of awful things like drug binges and heavy drinking - none of which were true, and were fuelled by his ex wife's vendetta. I was devastated, as single motherhood never factored into plan. But I gritted my teeth and got on.
Fast-forward to the 12 week scan, at the beginning of July. He came with me and afterwards it was like a switch had turned, and he became this kind, loving, gentle person. Nothing was too much trouble. He would do my food shopping for me and drop it over on his lunch break, took me baby shopping, came over for supper a few times a week and we talked and laughed and I stupidly let myself start falling again.
Last night, he came over after a weekend away and I really missed him. We made dinner, had a cosy night in, and I couldn't be happier. Until I STUPIDLY let my curiosity get the better of me, and when he was sleeping checked his phone to see if he was still in touch with the ex wife. Of course he is, with the added bonus of he has also been seeing someone else who has a young baby. I am beyond devastated, as I really (foolishly) thought that we could maybe be a little family in the future. I am angry at myself more than anything, for letting that thought into my head. But it hurts, so bloody much!
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I am a fool! Stern words and hand holding needed.
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Joydgreen88 · 22/08/2016 15:59
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