I could do with a different perspective so am posting here for your advice!
I have a difficult relationship with my parents. DM is a controlling woman who can be lovely, but mostly is mean, vindictive and downright cruel. She has fallen out with friends and family over the years and now no longer sees her family. My father always takes her side (I think mostly for a quiet life). To cut a long story short, after DM tried to pick yet another argument, I have cut all contact with them for the past 20 months and my life is so much easier without having to pander to DM and second guess her
The problem is I have two children aged 5 and 2 that haven't seen their grandparents in that time. The younger one doesn't know them but my older child remembers spending time with them (they had a good relationship but I could see DM starting to try and control DS by trying to be his favourite grandparent) and occasionally asks when he will see them again. Part of me feels that he should see them under the supervision of my DH but the other part of me feels we should continue as we are. My son isn't distressed about not seeing them but just asks about them sometimes. It makes me feel so guilty and sad for my son and my parents and I really don't know what to do for the best.
Sorry for the long post!
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Need advice about grandparents and grandchildren please
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Gluetap · 29/07/2016 12:55
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