I totally lost it with my family yesterday and my partner (who I'm supposed to marry in a few weeks) totally can't empathise with me, says I need to see someone "Not that hippy Mindfulness"
I say, Im human and I have my limits.
My partner has been working very long hours the last week, and ontop of that had to work on Saturday as well.
He text me from work on Saturday and said he got a formula 1 ticked for Sunday. I encouraged him to go, despite being on my own with two squabbling children because he's been working hard and deserved it.
Turns out he couldn't go because it turned out the ticked he was offered wasn't a full ticket. Or something.
So he comes home and in the morning he sleeps in past 09.30 and I'm telling the kids to be totally quiet to let him sleep as he's been working.
At 10am I take the kids of to a local park/farm for two hours. In this time DP does the food shopping.
In the afternoon, I tell them I'll cook them a roast as its a crap rainy afternoon and we're stuck in. I also buy them a family film on sky to give them something to do.
After roast the kids are still going mental so I suggest a walk as the rain has cleared.
All during me doing this, I'm being nagged by one or both of the kids. For God knows what reason it's always 'Muuuuum!' They moan and not Dad. The 5 year old throws tantrums left right and centre and is generally going through an attention seeking unpleasant stage.
After the walk we end up in a pointless arguement about a pair of shoes.
I eventually totally lose. In the car I shout, slam my hand on the dash and call them all ungrateful bastards.
I totally lose it.
Every part of my bloody day was spent thinking of them and trying to do stuff to make them happy and all I've had back is tantrums, whining and an arguement about a pair of shoes.
He says he cannot see my point of view, that he doesn't get why I lost it.
I say I'm human and I have limits.
How on earth can I marry someone who has absolutely zero empathy. He said himself that he cannot see it from my point of view.
I KNOW I shouldn't have shouted and slammed my hand onthe dash and called them all ungrateful bastards. I KNOW I'm wrong, I'm trying my absolute best to be a perfect mum with no anger (Mindfulness helps!) but from him I get nothing back.
Just judgement.
Help please.
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He cannot empathise with me at all.
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BillyBlueCack · 11/07/2016 08:51
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