Both dc are living back at home – they are are both in their 20s, one has finished university and is working locally, the other home from uni for the summer and has some part time work lined up.
I'm getting fed up of feeling like we are running a hotel.
Dd1 has her boyfriend down to stay this weekend. They were out all day yesterday, ate with us in the evening (dd2 made the meal, then they all polished off the remains of the chicken I was keeping for a risotto later in the week). I told dd1 and her bf they would need to clear up after dinner – which they did.
This morning, they got up late, beautifully dressed, but refused a polite request to do a few things around the house because they've arranged to go out for the rest of today. They have now disappeared, without doing the things I'd asked.
Me and DH, on the other hand, had been on the go since quite early, putting away A shopping delivery and sorting laundry. He also did a bit of work on elder dc's car before he went into work himself.
Dd2 is more useful since she's been at uni, so less of an issue there - although she has skipped off too without lifting a finger this morning. The dog needs a walk, the dishwasher is full and there is a pile more laundry to do. Dh and I work ft and I have work to tackle from my job today.
Dh and I need to sit down and set some boundaries! Dd1 told me to 'fuck off' this morning when I used the immortal phrase about treating our home like an hotel. They're not doing nothing, but mainly need to be told, and dd1 especially isn't pulling her weight.
Any practical suggestions would be very welcome, thanks.
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How to stop running a boarding house for adult children?
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