Wtf is he playing at?

[Hubnut]

We've been separated for three months since I kicked him out cos he'd been having an affair for six weeks.

I found out he proposed to OW in June. Having met her in March. I'm not supposed to know about this.

He's still telling me how much he regrets what has happened and how he loves me and thought we'd grow old together.

So wtf has he proposed? ? We were together ten years and have a child. Never married. Relationship was great until had baby and final year was crap.

And if he proposed cos it's true love - then wtf keep telling me I'm his soul mate?

I don't want him. But I don't want him to marry her she's a skanky bitch who was gloating over her "win" while I was figuring out where to live with our baby. I'm bewildered by his behaviour.

[Justmuddlingalong]

She's a skanky bitch and he's a cheating prick. She's won him? Sounds like you're the winner here OP. to you and your DC.

[Fedupd0tcom]

Sending you a big hug. He's an epic moron and you deserve so much better than that man. You are well rid. And that woman is welcome to him. Now you are free to find someone who treats you with the love and respect you deserve. He can go do one!!

[SandyY2K]

Let him have the skanky bitch and don't look back. There's better loyal men out there who won't dip themselves in and out of OW.

[Herald]

Move on and build your own life without him , let her take her 'prize' they deserve each other ...

[hownottofuckup]

Trust me, you're the real winner here. I learnt that to my cost when I 'won' him back
Disengage and leave them to it. The best revenge is being happy.

[TheNaze73]

I would withdraw as much as possible OP. Consider it a lucky escape & be blessed with your child. It sounds like a classic rebound job. He obviously is a sad individual who can't bare to be alone

[Hubnut]

Thank you. It really bothers me to think of them happy together. I could handle him leaving but he's just trotted off to play happy families elsewhere.

I'm mostly happy and doing well but these thoughts preoccupy me.

[toadgirl]

Don't give him any more headspace.

Why waste precious time wondering why a tosser behaves like a tosser? (ANSWER: Because he's a tosser!!)

I know it's hard to see a gloating OW thinking she's won. She actually lost, but she's too dumb to realise it. Why not let her think she's won? Wave them off into the sunset grinning madly and giving them your best wishes! She'll start to wonder what's making you so happy

You WILL have the last laugh on this, OP. Just play a long game.

Is there anything you can plan that's really nice and exciting for yourself? Something new to focus on. You can do this

[Lweji]

Clearly he's a cheating lying bastard. He cheated on you and is effectively cheating on her, in his head or his words.

You are better without him. No doubt.

I suspect he's the type who can't be alone and may have been pushed to show how much he loves her. Ah.
Proposals mean very little. Even wedding vows mean little for that scum, so I really wouldn't give it any head space.

[Hubnut]

Yes toadgirl I'm trying to make our new place into a lovely home, that's a useful distraction x

[Incognita82]

OP I think your exP and my exH must have been separated at birth! Cheating - tick, ridiculously early proposal to OW - tick, professions that you are and always have been his soulmate - tick. There really is a script they all follow (walks off muttering and shaking head).

[Hubnut]

I think there's quite a few wrong uns out there incognita x