Recently I've been in turmoil over the hard decision I have to make and this is splitting with my OH of 4 and a half years.
I've not reached this decision lightly as we have a 2 yo DD to think about, but the feelings I have have been brewing for years despite numerous "talks" had with my OH. Even though this hasn't been said out loud by ourselves, I think that we both are "out of love" with each other and have lost any kind of interest in the others life. We rarely talk anymore unless it's about money or our ongoing list of "house projects" and when we don't share the same opinion, I am verbally beaten down until I come around to his way of thinking, which I do purely for the sake of an easy life. But I'm miserable and in turn, I don't want our DD to see her parents unhappy so I believe if we split, it would make both me and her Dad a lot happier.
Having said all of that, we bought a new build house late last year and have spent thousands of £'s furnishing and altering it. We are legally tied to this house for 3 years unless we pay hefty fees to sell and I also have nowhere else to go now that I am financially dependent on my partner. My family live close by but don't have the room to accommodate me and my DD. Also, I don't want to pull her away from her nursery. I have heard of separated couples living under the same roof but "not together" and I was wondering if anyone else has had this experience and does it work?
The benefits that I can see are we both get to parent our DD without her being dragged from pillar to post, she can remain at her nursery and we all have a house to live in. But can it work? Can we live separate lives but in the same house?
I would be very grateful for any advice anyone has for me. Even though our relationship is coming to an end, I feel like my OH and I have been in a "friends" state for a few years anyway.
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Can we still live in the same house but separated?
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eighteentwentythree · 30/06/2016 13:17
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