Mil has always treated her dd as her favourite. Her other 2 sons are aware of this and laugh it off although in recent years have started to moan to each other about it. The daughter is the golden child and can do no wrong, got extra help with £ (whether she needed it or not), etc etc
Me and dh have 2 dcs who were for a while the only grand children. But sil (golden child) has recently had a baby so mil has another GC.
MIL is not easy to handle and likes things her way. She is really hard to pin down for visits and despite us telling her she can come visit any weekend (dcs are at school and we both work) she rarely does. We can't visit her easily due to school and as she doesn't have space and it's too far for a day trip. Yet she still moans and guilt trips about never seeing her GC. She has form for making plans to come see us and then cancelling at the last minute because she got a better offer or cutting visits short.
Anyhow this week she was chatting to dh via text and said she was on holiday with golden child's in laws. I've since noticed through Facebook that she was actually on holiday with golden child's family and in laws. This was not mentioned to dh. That's weird right- why would you leave out that you were on holiday with your daughter?
She has already spent way more time and money with the new GC than she ever did with either of our dc at that age. I always suspected that when golden child had dc ours would be pushed aside. I think that's what I'm seeing evidence of and it upsets me. Even though I thought I was prepared for it I'm still angry and hurt that she guilt trips us about never seeing the GC and then puts all her efforts into the other one.
I suppose I could be being paranoid and it's all a harmless misunderstanding. And maybe I have a heightened sense of fairness as my parents were meticulously fair - due my dad experiencing being the non-favourite. But...
What's your advice for when your dc are not the favourites? 😞
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Is this how grandparent favouritism starts?
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SquirrelFruitandNutkin · 18/06/2016 03:47
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