Should I keep cards etc. from wedding when marriage is over?

[ToThineOwnSelf]

I have a large box of cards etc. from my wedding a few years ago which is over and I am divorced, following my ex's conviction for assault to me. I can't work out what to do with them - chuck the whole lot? Keep some of them? Send the ones from my ex's friends and family back to him? TIA

[FeckinCrutches]

What do you want to do with them?

[ToThineOwnSelf]

Not sure, it feels bad to just chuck them all, but I guess no reason to ever look back at them. It's come up as I am moving house and clearing stuff out.

[FeckinCrutches]

I'd chuck them. No reason to look back on them really. But I'm super un sentimental.

[ToThineOwnSelf]

Think you're right, thanks!

[crje]

I chucked mine and I'm still married!
I'm not sentimental either.

[RedMapleLeaf]

I think it sounds as though you want permission to get rid of them. I'd take a moment to recognise that they were sent in good faith from lots of people who cared enough to think about it at the time.

Then let them go.

[EarthboundMisfit]

I chucked mine and I'm still married! I'm ruthless. I did keep them for 8 years.

[Dozer]

I plan to chuck ours if storage space requires, except a few sentimental ones, eg from parents or deceased relatives.

Or might let DD loose with glue and scissors, she's a budding maker and stylist and could no doubt have lots of fun with them.

DH won't be happy, he's a nostalgic hoarder, hence why can only do it if space needed!

[TheNaze73]

There is no hard & fast rule here. Personally, I'd bin them but, you do whatever the hell you like with them OP

[redexpat]

Apply Kondo - hold each one and ask yourself does this spark joy? If yes keep, if not bin.

[fuzzywuzzy]

I had trouble cucking stuff out following my divorce from an abusive marriage.

My younger sister came around and de-cluttered she was ruthless, and actually it felt good afterwards, I was grateful to have the responsibility removed from me I just didn't want to do it in case it was wrong. She re-did photo albums, so they now have me and my DC and we still have old photos but none of ex as I don't actually want pictures or mementos of him.

[ToThineOwnSelf]

Thanks for all the replies, I am going to chuck them.

[mangosandlime]

I do t have mine or anything else really bar my wedding ring which was my nans so don't want to get rid of that . Sad that it's no longer got happy memories