Every time DH speaks to MIL on the phone he comes off tense, angry and depressed. She does a very morose / despondent voice, doesn't really ask about him or his life (and he doesn't offer), asks about the kids but in a way that is about her agenda (is he still not sleeping through / potty trained etc) and allows her to make little digs about our life choices. She also makes complaints about not seeing us (but is hugely busy herself and we are an afterthought to her active social life).
It doesn't sound like much but it is years of this type of behaviour that cumulatively has got him down. He just wants her to be kind and accepting and not miserable.
It then has an impact on me and the rest of the family as he is stressed and angry and depressed afterwards.
At the moment I am listening, and telling him he can't change her, he can only change his reaction to her and that most GPs have annoying views on how we should bring up kids. But he says he doesn't know how. He has low self esteem and just wants to please everyone.
Any advice welcome. After 10 years of this I've kind of had enough.
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puglife15 · 14/06/2016 22:47
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