Hi there
Id like some advice on how to go about leaving my relationship please. We are not legally married and currently live together with DD 2 yrs old.
Iv been with him since late 2013 I got pregnant early and had DD and so iv been at home most of our "marriage". Over the time we have had some good times but he has also been emotionally and somewhat financially abusive plus messaging other women and going on marriage sites claiming to be single and live alone.
Although he has payed of a couple of small debts and bought a cheap car for me to run around in under £1500. I only have 300£ in my acc while he has the 60,000+ in the savings acc ready for a mortgage for us and proof of earnings because he is self employed.
I don't really want to get a mortgage with him I won't be on it anyway for the start of the mortgage and I'm not sure we'll last that long because I want out.
I'm just wondering if I have any right to some of the money saved over the course of us being together and me staying at home with DD which we both agreed to because we didn't want DD at nursery at such a young age. I know I probably don't but if so how do I go about it. Do I just leave with nothing?
He has been able to save because of living in an inherited house on my side of the family and no rent being payed plus on £35,000-£40,000 salary. Plus £2,000 jobs at least 5 times or more a yr.
However I don't have access to the savings. Legally they aren't mine really. I just feel so used and abused and want to leave but I don't know how to go about it. I also feel stupid and just a bit shitty overall. Any help will do please thanks
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Do I leave with nothing?
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Foodbabie · 02/06/2016 05:06
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