I was wondering if any one else had come accross this situation. ....I am in my late 40s seperated nearly 6 years from a 24 year marriage. ..being young free and single I went on POF met a few very strange men then received a message from a man of a similar age, we got chatting all went well a few days later we spoke on the phone he was open and honest and stated he had been seperated 18 months and his son was 5, none of this was a concern to me, my child is a lot older, he sounded really genuine. We met had a lovely evening and we started to see each other, we agreed that I would see him on the days when he didn't have his son. He explained his ex was a lot younger than him by 15 years and had another child from a previous relationship but he treated this child the same as he treated his own child with her, this to me made no difference he also stated that he had his son one night over the weekend and looked after the children one day at the weekend whilst she worked. I had no issue at all with any thing. About 2 months into the relation he mentioned that he thinks we should live together I was a little taken aback as I was aware that the ex did not know about us and I hadn't me the child. I suggested that when all this was out in the open then I had no issue with him moving in with me. Time went on still carried on seeing him oposite days to his child, Christmas he spent the whole day at exs with the children I didn't mind I understand, time still goes on we went on holiday earlier this year, the ex looked after his flat and would of seen my things that were left on the side, we had a wonderful holiday grew closer and was talking about moving in and our future together, he agreed that he would tell the ex when the time was right in the next few weeks, he seemed to me that he was putting it off and did state at one point he liked the way things were and she might get jealous, I just responded that I would leave it with him and didn't feel we could move on til ex knew as the 5 year old would be staying over night at mine. He then said just a few weeks back that he would tell her of which he did, she had no issue and was happy for me to meet the 5 year old, he was that happy he turned up at my door with him I was shocked but so happy I now knew this had sealed every thing .......then the following day he shows me messages from her saying it was too soon and that his time with his son should be their time ....He explained we had been together 10 months and that I (me) would never interfere with their time, she seemed to except that the next thing I know he tells me she wants to see him, I spoke to him prior to him seeing her we both thought it would be some kind of threats. He then didn't call me for 10 hours and told me he was really sorry but she wanted him to give it another go and for the sake of the kids he needed to try ....I am gob smacked in total shock, is this normal behaviour ? Is it jealously? He now won't even speak to me as he feels that it won't be fair on me ..He hasn't moved back in as yet but it's only been a few weeks ....any thoughts
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happyred1967 · 28/05/2016 18:40
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