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zetec Sun 15-May-16 09:52:10

Help I need unbiased advice.
I've been seeing a man for nine months now. Meet each other children, have regular meet ups all was rosy in the garden until Friday eve. He has a boy and a girl. I have one girl. Our children have not yet met.
He was married for a long time now divorced. I've always felt he was an honest type of man what he said he did. No messing about but I know he is friendly terms with his ex wife that is good and normal but lately I have been feeling a bit pissed off as he seems to spent a lot of time with her ... I know this is good for the children as I'm on great terms with my ex.
Would you be ok with this ?
He spent her birthday with her she had a gathering at her house.
He bought her a bday present.
He puts up shelves and does jobs in her house.
She had an affair but he's not said a bad word about her.
They have been out with other couples for meals.
He spent a day last week with her sunning themselves in the park drinking wine.
This is a flag isn't it.
Want to tell him I'm uneasy with it. Not sure how to word it without looking insecure.
He could still have feeling for her couldn't he.

Itisbetternow Sun 15-May-16 10:03:02

He is still in love with his ex wife.

zetec Sun 15-May-16 10:24:46

Yes I think he probably is ... What a fool I am 😔

zetec Sun 15-May-16 10:49:42

When they have these meet ups other adults are there too (joint friends )
Also his ex is seeing someone else.
Not that this excuses it.

pocketsaviour Sun 15-May-16 11:44:29

They have been out with other couples for meals. He spent a day last week with her sunning themselves in the park drinking wine.

Whilst the other stuff could just about go under "Remaining friendly and helpful with your child's other parent", those last two most definitely cross a line. I mean the last one is a date, right?

zetec Sun 15-May-16 11:56:08

Yes it's a date 😟

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