I see this advice all the time on Mumsnet and I don't understand it at all .
It usually goes like this. Poster finds incontrovertible evidence that her DH/ DP is cheating . A secret phone , texts, emails, messages . Strange items on bank statements . Photographs . Evidence that he wasn't where he said he was.
She asks MNers for advice . Most people say - collect more evidence , work out what you want to do , get legal advice, make your plans, get some RL support.
But there's always someone who says
" It could be totally innocent - I'm sure there's a good explanation why he has a seperate phone and bank account which he's been hiding from you for the last two years . And why he said he was in Watford at a sales conference when he was in Paris with OW. Just ask him and you will know from his reaction if he's telling the truth "
This is the bit I don't get . If the man has been lying convincingly to his partner for weeks, months or even YEARS , why will he be suddenly become honest when confronted ?
Do these men really suddenly break down and confess everything?
And how will she suddenly be able to discern truth from lies if she's been lied to for years ? How can she just " know " it's the truth ?
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Just confront the cheater and you will know if he's telling the truth
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Kr1stina · 14/05/2016 08:25
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