I'm crushed. Found out my ex had an affair and whilst we were on holiday together he was calling her. He took her to all the same places he took me to like the same Restaurant for her birthday as mine, same London show. We split because he was so horrible on the holiday I mentioned I chucked him out. According to the ow he had told her he didn't love me and was no longer together but we was. Since splitting a year ago I left him alone had counselling tried to get on but he pursued me the whole time. He wouldn't let things go and I had no idea about other woman. At the beginning of this year I had message from her with a photo of them together and was so upset. He played it down and I accepted he had a right to a relationship despite the fact he had been still dating and intimate with me. I wished him luck and was starting to date but he called me on one date and told me he had broke things off and wanted to try again have counselling together and I admit I was keen. I found out from her after that he had booked a trip to New York with her which was where we went for a trip so I was again really upset but he claimed to be going alone. He face timed me in New York lots of times convincing me he had gone alone. After all this I have just found out he went with her and they was still together the whole time including what I said at the beginning during our relationship. I'm absolutely heart broken as to top it off he is now being so cruel and not sorry he doesn't care how much I'm hurting and takes no responsibility !? I'm wondering why this is ? He has been dumped by me and her but he is being nice abut her and not about me saying she didn't deserve it but I did. Apparently I deserve to be cheated because o didn't get dinner on the table everyday ? So I'm feeling pretty fragile I understand his immense guilt and the anger is a cover for that but it's more the why he done it all ? I can't get my head round why? I had let him go he could have moved on. I get no answers from him just - leave me alone. Cut me out. I'm no good. Stay away. ??? I feel like I'm struggling emotionally now not to sleep or eat. I have some CBT therapy coming up in a few weeks thank god. And to be clear no way do I want him back. Just wondering if others have come across this nasty cold behaviour when a man has been caught out cheating ? And will there be remorse at some point. I'm wondering what other steps I can take to get through this.
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