She's in her late twenties (younger than me by nearly 10 years) and lives in my father's house in a remote corner of the country. He doesn't live there, he resides overseas but comes back to check on the house/renew passport/visit my mum's relatives who live in the area occasionally. Our mum died nearly 3 years ago.
She is living there rent and bill-free, which is characteristic of my dad's culture. That is fine - I understand and respect that. She is also having mental health struggles and so, despite having a degree in languages, insists that she cannot leave the remote region (where her languages are not of use) and needs to stay there. She simultaneously hates the small-mindedness of the region and so doesn't stay in jobs long due to the number of unpleasantly bigoted people (she gets angry with then and work becomes unbearable and she leaves). So she isn't working - the odd part-time job here and there.
She has moved into my dad's house and spread out all over it, acquiring 3 cats and not cleaning much. It is cluttered and frankly a bit grim. She assumes anything in the house is hers and gets tetchy if I reclaim any of my own possessions (it is ostensibly a family home).
She and my dad have to try hard to get on with each other. His visits are hard work and she tends to avoid him, while he tends to work all the time and occasionally descend to complain about the cleanliness and ask whether she has cooked. He's not perfect by any stretch.
Here is my main cause of upset: recently she was really vitriolic about him on Facebook over the local elections (he's very Tory, she's very Green). She was.just being really nasty about him and all her friends were piling in exclaiming how dreadful he is.
I was disgusted. In my eyes if you're living in someone's home for free and they are providing for you, you do NOT publicly revile them and go on about how shit they are (certainly not while you've still got your hand out). I wouldn't mind so much if she were abusing him verbally to her friends because she's entitled to her feelings and all, but commiting said feelings to a written medium where it's captured for all to see? That just feels really low. It's made me think less of her.
I'm worried that I will say something if I don't stop brooding on it. Help
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I need to vent about my sister.
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LaContessaDiPlump · 13/05/2016 22:56
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