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Heartbroken and its all my own fault

(11 Posts)
Heartbroken2007 Thu 12-May-16 18:00:58

Close friend, always been a bit of a spark between us but nothing has ever happened. We've both been in relationships for most of the time we've known each other, I am now single and he isn't. We slept together two weeks ago, I feel absolutely dreadful. He's been sweet to me ever since but he isn't going to leave his gf - I told him we can't speak anymore. I feel horrible for what I've done but also realised my feelings go way beyond friendship. I know the fairest thing to do is get out his life and stay out, and I know what I've done to his poor gf is horrid but I just feel so sad.

Whisky2014 Thu 12-May-16 18:03:50

How did it come about that you slept together?

Heartbroken2007 Thu 12-May-16 18:06:22

We talk a lot - he was near my house after a few drinks and popped in to say hi. I knew the minute he came in that it was going to happen and I should have asked him to leave. I know there's no excuse for what I did, he has a gf, but I really care about him, clearly he doesn't feel the same.

KacieB Thu 12-May-16 18:06:31

Well - could you ever trust him after that?! Yes, cutting him out is best for you. Of course it'll feel rotten at first.

Whisky2014 Thu 12-May-16 18:09:58

So you know he's a lying cheat. What a guy!

Heartbroken2007 Thu 12-May-16 18:11:24

This is exactly what I needed to hear :D thank you. I feel crappy cos I've lost a mate and I stupidly thought he might declare his undying love for me. But nope. He is a cheating arsehole.

Whisky2014 Thu 12-May-16 18:15:42

i feel really sorry for the girlfriend. sad

Heartbroken2007 Thu 12-May-16 18:20:03

Yeah me too and I know I have no right to but I do.

NoMarbles Thu 12-May-16 18:23:43

Definitely a cheating arsehole.
You don't want the same happening to you.

Everything happens for a reason!

KacieB Thu 12-May-16 18:44:24

Yes - don't give into daydreams and fantasies please! He's a jerk and you'd never ever ever fully trust him if he did leave her for you.

Meanwhile, without sounding like a total prissy and judgemental cow - it wasn't a nice thing to do to cheat like that, so I think that will be something you need to work on for your own sake in future.

Fireandflames666 Thu 12-May-16 18:45:58

He isn't called Ryan is he?, lol. I know a guy who's like that. Cheats but doesn't leave his gf.

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