I have a colleague who frequently moans about other people behind their backs, e.g. x sends me too many text messages, it's really annoying, or y bought me a christmas present and i wish she hadn't cause i had to buy one back. Not complete character assignation but things that i think could probably be easily fixed if she were just honest. When i've asked her about this she says that you don't tell people they are pissing you off and it's better to vent to others instead.
I discussed this with a friend today who said that she kind of agreed, she'd prefer it if people said nice things to her because she doesn't want to hear the bad stuff. I, on the other hand, would like to know if I'm annoying someone so that i can decide whether to adjust my behaviour or not. I know i'm not perfect and am quite open to some constructive criticism. But now i'm starting to think i may be unusual in this attitude, am I?
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Is it better to moan behind someone's back or be honest with them?
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whatswhat · 08/05/2016 17:40
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