Yet another conversation turned into a row this morning, and in the middle of it I told H I think we should both agree to call it a day. Surprisingly, he agreed (surprising because he has always resisted my attempts to talk about it before).
So, where do we go from here?
We are in the middle of a huge renovation, so selling current house out of the question for the next year or so. He wants to wait, and carry on as we are, and finish build etc, then sell and tell the dc. Whilst this makes sense financially, I'm not convinced it is the best plan. We are looking at needing to move out, potentially, for the next 6 months or so (build dragging on far longer than it should have, and living here kitchenless for that much longer is not looking viable), and I think moving out, then back to 'our' house, then selling that house and telling children we are splitting, all within 12 months, would be hugely disruptive. Dc are 11, 9 and 3, all with various severity of ASD, and I think they would struggle with all that change and upset coming close together.
Anyone got any ideas? I just can't think my way through this right now. I didn't want to deal with it this way, but the build is dragging on, and we can't go in as we are for much longer (which is why adding a further year of it seems madness to me!)
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WonkyCastle · 05/05/2016 12:39
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