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It's over, what do I do now?

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Ellarose85 · 05/05/2016 08:50

Bit of background info, I've had family problems for the last two years which have had a big impact on my mental health which in turn has took its toll on my relationship causing it to breakdown.

DP and I are not married, we have one DS (10 months) and DC2 due in July. DP owns the house and I don't wish to take any of it from him as he has paid for it all.

I have no support from my family by my own choice. I have no savings and no money as I am a SAHM.

I've contacted the local council to apply for housing.

What else should I be doing to get all my ducks in a row before DC2 arrives?

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Ellarose85 · 05/05/2016 11:13

Can any help? I have no one to talk to in RL, need a bit of a hand to hold

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FriedSprout · 05/05/2016 11:25

I'm no expert but these a some of the things I would be doing in your case:

Stop accepting all the blame, he is the father of your children and should be ensuring they are supported financially, and have a roof over their heads, and that includes you. You may not have been bringing in an income, but that was due to you looking after his children.

See a solicitor, and quickly

Take and keep safe, copies of all marital documents, financial documents (savings, investments, pensions etc) Also make sure you find and keep safe, birth certificates, and passports.

Inform school if required.

I wouldn't be in a rush to leave the house either. Certainly not until you are clear on what you and the dc are entitled to? It's more important that your dc have somewhere to stay.

See your GP

Keep posting here, as someone will be along soon who has much more knowledge than me.

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

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Ellarose85 · 05/05/2016 12:22

I would like to try to avoid involving solicitors as I want to keep this as amicable as possible. DP is a good man and I know he will support the kids and I as much as possible. He wants us to stay together but I need to move away from our town and my family for the sake of my mental health and in the long term, for our children.