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sick of him turning everything around on me

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sammyjayneex Fri 29-Apr-16 12:02:13

So husband text me at work about paternity leave (I'm due 28th may I'm 36 weeks tomorrow)

He text me a few things telling me he might book second week of June off for his paternity leave ( that's two weeks over my due date) then I said well how will that work when I'm due 28th) he said oh I'll book a week off end of may annual leave. I said well I disagreed. Why not book book paternity leave straight from 28th may and continue? I suspected he was trying to avoid any time off in the 1st week of June because his manager expressed her concern in the phone yesterday that a lot of staff have requested 1st June off for their holiday so I recon he's trying to fit it in between his managers concerns so I challenged him on this and he got defensive and said there is nothing else to discuss he will take his paternity leave as soon as baby comes out but before that he told me a completely different story. We didn't discuss the by the way. As a married couple shouldn't have he discussed this with ME before going to work and sorting it without discussing with me? I have a feeling that if he has book them dates off and baby comes either side or In-between them dates he will have to take unpaid leave.

He then started calling me uneducated, thick, moody and that I don't have a positive mind, j make him miserable and bring him down. All because I challenged him..... I don't think he likes that

AttilaTheMeerkat Fri 29-Apr-16 12:24:51

What do you get out of this relationship now?.

You have written about your H at length before now. Nothing has really changed for you and it will not until you yourself decide that enough is really enough. He is simply projecting his own self image and problems onto you, you are his emotional punchbag.

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