DH and I have been fighting constantly for what feels like forever. Things are always so stressful, young kids, no sleep, work is crazy for both of us, constant juggling, no money, have had to move 4 times in the last 5 years for work (his) blah blah blah. Sometimes we truly hate each other. But our lives are just coming together and there is light at the end of the tunnel in terms of practical stability, finances, kids sleeping better etc. A few weeks ago I realised that he really really disliked me, for the first time. I had done something silly with the baby and the look of disgust on his face was shocking. Since then I have really tried to change my attitude, I realised that this is my marriage, I want to make it work. I have been trying to be more affectionate, have sex more, be less naggy. But this evening we had a row and he has now left the house. This is pretty much the first time he has done this. I don't think he has 'left', I know he's gone to meet a friend and vent. What is scary is that he no longer seems to want to try to make it work. The row was over me asking him to go for a run early tomorrow morning rather than later, as we have a day out planned with friends. And he exploded. And left. I don't know what to do. I'm scared that he doesn't want to make it work any more. During a previous bad patch I had suggested couples counselling and he said that if his marriage was bad enough to need counselling, then he didn't want to be in it. I'm really scared that my marriage is falling apart and I don't know what to do. I don't want to leave him, I do want to make this work.
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feelinginthedark · 23/04/2016 01:58
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