I posted about this in legal and here previously, but wanted to post an update, am so upset and frustrated.
In short, finished with ea bullying ex, was in first trimester of pregnancy. Am no longer pregnant as of 12 weeks, which was and has been agonizing. Since I informed of him of this, he has been vile, doesn't believe me and has asked for 'proof' that the pregnancy has ended, even getting a solicitor letters to request proof. He says he won't leave me alone until I give him proof.
I don't want to give him proof because
a) I don't feel safe from him once he has the 'proof'
b) I think that won't be the end, he will then harass for proof of how etc
c) because every part of me thinks it wrong to give him this, it is entirely unreasonable and bullying and further ea and have had enough of it...
He's blocked off everything but email, and I have had advice from legal on here, but the latest is that, yesterday I received a call from midwife to say he has called the hospital asking for information about me /the pregnancy. Because he has managed to get info before, and because of the ea they had an alert on my file so didn't give him any information whether I was/wasn't still pregnant etc. She said he got nasty with them and said he was entitled legally and started spouting his 'rights'.
Have re-reported it to Police on their advice as indirect harassment, midwife said she was happy for them to contact her.
The police rang this week to say they would serve the harassment warning, have no idea if they did or not, they have been saying that for weeks. They aren't going to prosecute re harassment because in the torrent of abusive messages, I replied 'leave me alone' to every one...until he was blocked (and moved onto something else) apparently if you reply even once they can't prosecute.
Had crap solicitor who promised the world last Friday but they didn't follow through after the legal aid assessments twice this week, and so another week has gone by and I still don't have non-mol order. They also said it could cost £150-200 a month whilst it goes on, which of course with that dickhead it will. I feel that he is still shafting me, he's still in my life, still controlling financially as he Knows we can't afford that, I only work two days a week, Wtf should we go without to keep this fucker away from us and to feel safe? And he can keep it going and I might have to face him, he gets to still do all that, and I pay for the pleasure?? I actually hate him.
It's been to a marac meeting and I got a victim support worker that's linked to women's aid, and she has sent more solicitors to try.
I'm actually despairing now about what he will do next can anyone advise?
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buzzpop · 22/04/2016 12:19
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