I posted a while ago about the fact that my MIL had gone NC with me when I split from XH. We were really close over the 16 years I was with her DS but she just couldn't forgive me for giving up on him.
She knew what he was like and how hard it was being in a relationship with him but when I made the decision to end it she cut me off and I was heartbroken. I haven't seen her since January 2015 I went to tell the IL's that we were splitting. I tried to contact her during last year but she said she just couldn't forgive me.
Sadly she passed away on Monday morning She had been ill for a few years but was in remission and so it was quite unexpected. My XH didn't tell me, I found out from my DSis whose DH is friends with XH.
He did text me to say he needed to speak to the DC and when I asked if everything was ok he said no. He came to pick DS up after school and take him & DD to IL's but he didn't say a word. The DC are understandably devastated and my only place in all of this now is to support them.
I text XSIL and said how sorry I was and got a thank you reply. I've bought a sympathy card to send to her & XFIL. I know I will not be welcome at the funeral.
It really feels like unfinished business that now will never be resolved and I'm desperately sad that she has gone without being able to resolve things with her.
I feel like I am not entitled to my grief.
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Balders74 · 20/04/2016 13:03
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