I posted fairly recently about finding out that my very recent ex and someone who was a relatively recent but promising friend (I don't have many) who I had confided in about the awful breakup, were in some sort of flirtatious contact. I have also been dropped from the school mums nights outs with her and her group.
He has been adamant that, despite the messages, nothing has happened and she has just text me explaining how their meeting for a drink last week (I found this out accidentally) was totally innocent and how she knew it looked suspicious but it definitely wasn't and asking me to go out with her sometimes.
I want to tell her to go fuck herself.
But I am going to ignore and delete. That's the right thing to do isn't it?
For context, I know many will think I have no 'right' to feel upset but ex and I have been getting on great and spending lots of time together and I was even very tentatively thinking about the possibility of us working out our issues and he had said a few things that suggested he felt the same. I feel betrayed by both of them, ex-DP moreso as he knows how much I struggle with friendships and he has helped fuck this one up for me.
Right now I'm basically in a cycle of making myself look like a well-dressed confident badass on the school-run in case she sees me and spending the rest of the day depressed and crying 
Should I reply or leave it?
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Do I reply to this text or ignore it and retain my dignity?
Foodefafa · 19/04/2016 11:45
Thanks both.
I haven't replied and will not. Ex has been messaging about their innocence. I've ignored him too.
Going to stop spending time with him, have told him I will only speak to him about arrangements for the children and nothing else. I need to work on myself and finding some genuine friends.
This is hard
Too right Anthony.
Have ignored. Haven't bumped into her on the school run either which is good (although kind of a shame as I've made sure I looked really good 
).
Ex thinks I'm an "asshole" for not talking to him about anything but arrangements for the kids. So basically he wants to hang out with me, send me messages and emails all day, watch telly, eat together and then go off chasing people I thought were my friends. Errr, no.
He was meant to be coming on holiday with me and the DC in June but I've told him he isn't. I need to get used to being a single parent and that isn't going to happen if we continue doing everything together.
The best answer is no answer. It will annoy them far more than any scathing retort you can think of
You poor thing. It sounds really tough. You're doing the right thing though 
This man is the father of your children?! Fuck. Her.
Keeo ignoring. You rock. 
Looks like it's a ready meal for one then, no wonder he called you an ahole no home cooking and his feet still under table 
Sort of update: saw her yesterday at school pickup. She tried to approach me with her stupid, smug, head tilty, half smile face. I gave her my best glare and kept walking. Took about 2 hours for my heart rate to slow down.
Ex still thinks I'm being completely unreasonable. He says he's sorry for trampling over this friendship of mine then in the next message that they have done nothing wrong and I should be friends with her 
As if. I may not be overburdened with friends at the minute but I am certainly not that desperate. I'm keeping contact with him to the absolute bare minimum.
It's my weekend with the DC and we're having a lovely relaxing time. Will go out somewhere nice tomorrow. Need to keep showing myself that we're fine without him.
You're more than 'fine' without him; you're better off. By the sounds of it, you fucking RULE! Keep ignoring them, good for you bet it's driving them crazy that you don't care 
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