I have a 7wk old baby. During the pregnancy my husband and I had a few terrible arguments - in one he threw a pillow at me. On the weekend we had another heated argument and this time he threw something (not sure what but it was soft so probably a blanket) against my back as I walked away. I was holding ds at the time. Hardly violent crimes of the century but because it was when my back was turned and I couldn't see what he was doing, it scared me for a moment.
He loves ds and has been brilliant with him. I have had pnd and I've been moody and difficult. I've struggled physically and emotionally with the pregnancy and since, and I have struggled to bond with ds. I have sought help to address this. My husband has a lot of stress: he's working from home, and helping with ds and getting up at night to feed ds and doing household stuff. I know he sees me as an additional burden.
After our last argument he told me he isn't going to live like this anymore - i.e. arguing. But he didn't want to talk about it and went to bed and ignored me most of yesterday. We're on speaking terms now but walking on eggshells. He has previously suggested I stay with my mum until I am over the pnd, and leave him and dh. He knows I cannot really do that since it's not near his flat and my mum doesn't have a room for me to stay in anyway.
I'm worried that I'm trapped in a situation where I either stay where I am and keep quiet or I leave. If I leave I have nowhere to stay and won't have ds with me. If the marriage breaks down, I'm scared dh will try for sole custody because he adores ds, and that he might get it because he's been a good dad, has an income and flat; whereas I have had depression and poor mental health in the past, and I don't have a job or place to live. I'm scared I'll lose my son.
Sorry for the rambling post but if anyone has any advice, I'd be grateful x
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strangerjo · 19/04/2016 11:39
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