Context: married nearly 6 years, together for just over 7. He's the only man I've ever 100% trusted. We are like best friends. We have the same interests, laugh all the time, every day. We do things together, as a family. Tell each other 'I love you' every single day. He has supported me through illness and going NC with my family. He looks after me. He is very affectionate. He tells me I'm beautiful and perfect (I don't feel I'm either). We had quite a long period of no sex because of illness (both of us, not just me) but recently we've opened up to each other about it and have started to get back into the swing of it. He is the best thing that's ever happened to me. He's all I've got, other than my DD. I don't really have any friends and no longer have any family. He doesn't ever go out with friends, he just works all day and then comes home and we have a nice time together.
The other day I turned on the TV and it automatically came on to BBC1 but the Freeview thing at the bottom of the screen took a bit longer to wake up and showed a program that was on the previous night between midnight and 2am called 'Flirt Zone' on a channel so far down the channel list I didn't even know it existed. I looked at it last night when DH was in bed and it's a bit 'ceefax'-like in appearance, with real people's adverts and 'box numbers' that you could text to etc. The fact that it showed up at all, must mean DH was looking at it the night before. A rare night when I went to bed before him and he stayed up for a while.
I feel upset but I haven't mentioned it to him.
I feel like if it was porn on the internet, it wouldn't matter because they are essentially actors getting paid (hopefully) to do what they do and they don't even know my husband exists. But it's not porn. These are real people*, looking for...I don't know...someone to flirt with, NSA sex, I don't even know.
*yes, I know porn actors are real people too, but you know what I mean. It's different.
This feels like a red flag to me. Is that an over-reaction?
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Is this too small to get upset about?
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EllyBilliot · 18/04/2016 15:48
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