I've posted before under a different name about my violent and abusive husband and received a lot of very good advice.
I finally got up the coutage to call it a day in January and I kicked him out. Since then I have tried to stay amicable with him for the sake of our DC but it seems like every time I think things are okay he has just been lulling me into a false sense of security and he kicks off again.
I've had to call the police about him twice in the last few months as he trashed my house and assaulted me again. I try to have as little contact with him as possible but it's hard when I have to keep in touch with him because of the children.
Today the abuse has started again because I went out last night. I unlocked the door to let the children in. As they ran in the house he barged past me and came into the house shouting, swearing, calling me names.
I asked him to leave which he initially refused to do. After another torrent of abuse he Eventually left. He text me a few moments later telling me he's called the police and reported me for drink driving and assault (this won't just be 'talk' to get to me, he has form for doing this type of thing.)
He's since bombarded me with messages telling me to kill myself, that I'd be doing the world a favour if I was dead, my kids would be better off without me, telling me I'm mental, etc. He tells me I'm fabricating things and that stuff didn't happen to try to make me question my sanity. I know I shouldn't let it get to me. But when it has been going on so long it's hard not to have a bit of a lapse in strength sometimes. I'm sat here in tears wondering if the world would be better off without me.
I just don't know what to do any more. I can't cease contact with him because the DC deserve a relationship with their dad and he's never shown any sign of violence/aggression towards them. But I don't see how I can cope with this constant abuse any more. The courts won't grant me a non molestation order as they do not consider him an immediate risk to my safety.
Please help he find some coping strategies.
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stbxh still messing with my head
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chaseisonthecase · 10/04/2016 13:23
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