Sorry, it's fairly long. For background, I have two DS (7&5) with XDP. He lives 400 miles away, he did live in the same town but a while after we split he left his full time job and moved away. We split when DS were 3 1/2 and 18 months. The DSs had been up there twice to stay but DS7 is very anxious generally and recently has been adamant that he doesn't want to go up. He was keen to see his dad when he comes down here though.
XDP hasn't been down since Oct last year. He has arranged to come down three times and cancelled each time at the last minute.
He was due down tomorrow, this morning he has cancelled because he "can't afford it". I've asked him to ring the boys to tell them but he's not so far (it was 7am when he text me). So now I'm going to have to tell them. They're going to be devastated again. DS7 adores his dad and I'm so worried he's going to make his anxiety worse again.
I really don't know what to do for the best. I have always tried to encourage them to see their dad, I don't want them to blame me when they're older but I've also got to think of my DS mental health.
I'm know this is a fairly common occurrence so I wonder if anyone could give me any suggestions please. Do I still encourage them to see him? Do I stop him seeing them until he takes me to court? I really don't know what to do for the best.
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SerialSongSpoiler · 08/04/2016 09:29
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