Sorry for the long thread but I want to give some background.
My dad died when I was 12. I'm 30 now. He had two kids from a previous relationship who are about 15 years older than me. My dad's family (sisters) had always been quite horrible to my mum apparently and I knew from very young that my mum didn't like them. His other kids (so my two half sisters) and my mum didn't particularly get on, they were civil but my mum kept out because they had their own mum/family etc.
Straight after my dad died my dad's sisters and kids were sporadically in touch with my mum but it all tailed off after a few months and I haven't seen or spoke to any of my dad's family in 17/18 years.
Last week I got an email (my email address is online because of work) from one of my half sisters husbands basically asking if I was 'the' Jane Smith - not my real name. Basically it asked if I was from Derby (not my real birth place), if my dad was called Trevor (not my dad's real name) and a couple of other things to ascertain if I was that person. There was no real pleasantries or hint at why he was emailing.
I don't know whether or how to reply. On the one hand, I'm curious as to why he's in touch. But, on the other hand, I'm concerned about what suddenly prompted the contact and whether there's a risk I'll be dragged into something I don't want to be a part of- DH said 'what if someone wants a kidney?'. I don't particularly feel any need or desire to be in touch with my dad's family but it feels 'icky' to just ignore the email.
What would you do if this happened to you?
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PaxoStuffing · 07/04/2016 12:28
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