I wasn't sure if relationships was the right place for this? Apologies if not.
I would like to get married, for lots of reasons. DP isn't fussed but also when the discussion comes up, he states that it is "just a piece of paper" so is not really sure what my fuss is. We don't have a lot of money & he sees it as an expense we just don't need.
DISCLAIMER:- definitely not after a princess dress & big party! (My idea of hell)
I know in my head that I want to get married for security but I find it hard to articulate what I mean.
I want to be his NOK, to have a say in arrangements should the worst happen, to protect myself & in a lot of ways for him to be equally protected financially.
I want to have the same surname as my DC (I will not be changing by deed poll as suggested by mil )
I have always wanted to get married & he has always known this, but reading MN, articles & also a thing I saw on tv a few months ago have all added to this. On the tv thing a woman had been with her do something like 15years but was not seen as anything but an acquaintance when he suddenly died.
So, can you help me put this into actual words?
Not to come at him with a fight, just to get what I mean straight in my own head.
For what it's worth, DP is lovely despite my moans about him at times & fully committed to both me & our DC, I have no doubt there
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HeffalumpHistory · 07/04/2016 08:54
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