My mother has issues/a phobia about weight gain and now that I am pregnant, I need advice on how to handle her negative comments along the lines of how I shouldn't be gaining weight, babies only weigh 7lbs so there is no need to gain weight, smaller babies are better for delivery and general horror that i have gained weight.
I'm now 7 months in and have gained what I (and pregnancy weight gain charts) consider a healthy 1.5 stone and the comments have increased. It is driving me nuts!
I've been falling silent when she starts lecturing me as I know she won't listen to me if I tell her that she is wrong but it is getting to the point where my instinct is to try to my speak to her or see her again until sometime around 6 months after delivery when my body shape will be less obviously pregnant.
Backstory: as a teenager while living at home with her, I was underweight and didn't have a regular period (once every three months or so). When I consulted with the doctor, they told me it was likely that I was underweight. When I moved out and was able to control my own diet more (e.g. introduce carbs into my evening meal), my weight increased into the healthy range and although not totally regular, the frequency of my periods increased although there was always a slight doubt in my mind about how easy ttc with an irregular cycle would be and how much being at the lighter end of the bmi scale played into it rather than any other factors. Thankfully, however, that turned out not to be a problem.
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My mother, pregnancy and weight gain
YogaPants · 05/04/2016 12:30
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