I separated from my husband 9 weeks ago. He has rented somewhere over an hours drive away.
2 out of 3 DC have seen him a few times, he has done the Disney dad thing with them. But because of the distance he drives here to collect them, takes them out for a few hours and then brings them back.
dd3 is 8 and has been fine with this until this weekend where she asked if it was ok not to go out and doesn't want to speak to him on the phone either.
dd2 is 11 and flat out refuses to text, speak or see him, she has a lot of resentment towards the way he treated me and is adamant she hates him.
dd1 is 14 and has her own friends and things to do which includes still being in bed when he wants to collect them, she also feels uncomfortable speaking on the phone, I think she feels bad for not wanting to spend time with him.
When he was here he never spent time with them, didn't like to do things as a family and was generally a miserable person to be around.
He constantly blames me for the lack of contact even though he chose to rent so far away when he could have stayed more local where the older children could have popped over to see him iyswim.
I only have contact with him via email and he has emailed again asking why no one will talk to him but I don't know if I should have to reply, I can't force them to have a relationship with him, he made no effort whilst here.
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What do you do whe DC refuse to see or talk to their dad
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HoppingForward · 03/04/2016 11:05
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